I love that Mindy loves female friendships, however, I just really want to know why her female friends were axed from her show. Instead of her female friends, we get a new Bro Ob/Gyn every season, it just doesn’t make any sense. I’m truly worried for those fictional patients because I wouldn’t trust any of those dudes with my ginie. Having said that, the season premiere was great and I liked the Chris Messina stripping scenes. The whole one-girl-surrounded-by-a-thousand-bros thing really irks me with “The New Girl.” I happened to catch last night’s season premiere where they all attend a wedding and I related to the dread that can surround them, especially as you get older, but I do not like that show’s ongoing theme of sex as sport. It’s out of control. I’m officially done with football because it’s too depressing with all of the scandals but I am obsessed with soccer! I love that Mindy loves female friendships, however, I just really want to know why her female friends were axed from her show. Instead of her female friends, we get a new Bro Ob/Gyn every season, it just doesn’t make any sense. I’m truly worried for those fictional patients because I wouldn’t trust any of those dudes with my ginie. Having said that, the season premiere was great and I liked the Chris Messina stripping scenes. The whole one-girl-surrounded-by-a-thousand-bros thing really irks me with “The New Girl.” I happened to catch last night’s season premiere where they all attend a wedding and I related to the dread that can surround them, especially as you get older, but I do not like that show’s ongoing theme of sex as sport. It’s out of control. I’m officially done with football because it’s too depressing with all of the scandals but I am obsessed with soccer! I love that Mindy loves female friendships, however, I just really want to know why her female friends were axed from her show. Instead of her female friends, we get a new Bro Ob/Gyn every season, it just doesn’t make any sense. I’m truly worried for those fictional patients because I wouldn’t trust any of those dudes with my ginie. Having said that, the season premiere was great and I liked the Chris Messina stripping scenes. The whole one-girl-surrounded-by-a-thousand-bros thing really irks me with “The New Girl.” I happened to catch last night’s season premiere where they all attend a wedding and I related to the dread that can surround them, especially as you get older, but I do not like that show’s ongoing theme of sex as sport. It’s out of control. I’m officially done with football because it’s too depressing with all of the scandals but I am obsessed with soccer! I love that Mindy loves female friendships, however, I just really want to know why her female friends were axed from her show. Instead of her female friends, we get a new Bro Ob/Gyn every season, it just doesn’t make any sense. I’m truly worried for those fictional patients because I wouldn’t trust any of those dudes with my ginie. Having said that, the season premiere was great and I liked the Chris Messina stripping scenes. The whole one-girl-surrounded-by-a-thousand-bros thing really irks me with “The New Girl.” I happened to catch last night’s season premiere where they all attend a wedding and I related to the dread that can surround them, especially as you get older, but I do not like that show’s ongoing theme of sex as sport. It’s out of control. I’m officially done with football because it’s too depressing with all of the scandals but I am obsessed with soccer! I love that Mindy loves female friendships, however, I just really want to know why her female friends were axed from her show. Instead of her female friends, we get a new Bro Ob/Gyn every season, it just doesn’t make any sense. I’m truly worried for those fictional patients because I wouldn’t trust any of those dudes with my ginie. Having said that, the season premiere was great and I liked the Chris Messina stripping scenes. The whole one-girl-surrounded-by-a-thousand-bros thing really irks me with “The New Girl.” I happened to catch last night’s season premiere where they all attend a wedding and I related to the dread that can surround them, especially as you get older, but I do not like that show’s ongoing theme of sex as sport. It’s out of control. I’m officially done with football because it’s too depressing with all of the scandals but I am obsessed with soccer! I love that Mindy loves female friendships, however, I just really want to know why her female friends were axed from her show. Instead of her female friends, we get a new Bro Ob/Gyn every season, it just doesn’t make any sense. I’m truly worried for those fictional patients because I wouldn’t trust any of those dudes with my ginie. Having said that, the season premiere was great and I liked the Chris Messina stripping scenes. The whole one-girl-surrounded-by-a-thousand-bros thing really irks me with “The New Girl.” I happened to catch last night’s season premiere where they all attend a wedding and I related to the dread that can surround them, especially as you get older, but I do not like that show’s ongoing theme of sex as sport. It’s out of control. I’m officially done with football because it’s too depressing with all of the scandals but I am obsessed with soccer! I love that Mindy loves female friendships, however, I just really want to know why her female friends were axed from her show. Instead of her female friends, we get a new Bro Ob/Gyn every season, it just doesn’t make any sense. I’m truly worried for those fictional patients because I wouldn’t trust any of those dudes with my ginie. Having said that, the season premiere was great and I liked the Chris Messina stripping scenes. The whole one-girl-surrounded-by-a-thousand-bros thing really irks me with “The New Girl.” I happened to catch last night’s season premiere where they all attend a wedding and I related to the dread that can surround them, especially as you get older, but I do not like that show’s ongoing theme of sex as sport. It’s out of control. I’m officially done with football because it’s too depressing with all of the scandals but I am obsessed with soccer! I love that Mindy loves female friendships, however, I just really want to know why her female friends were axed from her show. Instead of her female friends, we get a new Bro Ob/Gyn every season, it just doesn’t make any sense. I’m truly worried for those fictional patients because I wouldn’t trust any of those dudes with my ginie. Having said that, the season premiere was great and I liked the Chris Messina stripping scenes. The whole one-girl-surrounded-by-a-thousand-bros thing really irks me with “The New Girl.” I happened to catch last night’s season premiere where they all attend a wedding and I related to the dread that can surround them, especially as you get older, but I do not like that show’s ongoing theme of sex as sport. It’s out of control. I’m officially done with football because it’s too depressing with all of the scandals but I am obsessed with soccer!

I love that Mindy loves female friendships, however, I just really want to know why her female friends were axed from her show. Instead of her female friends, we get a new Bro Ob/Gyn every season, it just doesn’t make any sense. I’m truly worried for those fictional patients because I wouldn’t trust any of those dudes with my ginie. Having said that, the season premiere was great and I liked the Chris Messina stripping scenes. The whole one-girl-surrounded-by-a-thousand-bros thing really irks me with “The New Girl.” I happened to catch last night’s season premiere where they all attend a wedding and I related to the dread that can surround them, especially as you get older, but I do not like that show’s ongoing theme of sex as sport. It’s out of control. I’m officially done with football because it’s too depressing with all of the scandals but I am obsessed with soccer!

(via smartgirlsattheparty)

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A year ago, I spent an entire day in bliss, writing answers to a survey about how I dress and why.  I found the project because one of my favorite authors, Sheila Heti, was co-editing a book called “Women In Clothes.”  I sent in my answers and over the course of a year, continued to receive updates via email from the editors.  It felt really fun and magical to be involved in a project like this.  The editors really valued the contributors, this was evident because they asked us our opinions on how we wanted to be portrayed in the book and online.  I am also getting a copy of the book in the mail tomorrow, UPS just informed me.  

Unfortunately, I didn’t have the book in time for the NYC book launch party at powerHouse Arena in the Dumbo section of Brooklyn.  Dumbo is pretty much a gorgeous place and the book store was spacious; a great holder of events.  The party was also a clothing swap.  I brought a few items and was able to write a few lines about each item on a slip of paper and pin it on so that whomever choose my item would know a little bit about it.  I brought my A-game with what I gave away, it was mostly stuff that was never worn, but I did not know that I would be awarded with such fabulous stuff in return.  Maybe I should have known, since it was NYC and everyone there was fabulous.  I made sure to grab an outfit that I normally wouldn’t wear.  I chose a brightly colored tribal tank and a high waisted black and white plaid bubble skirt.  

When the editors arrived, they donated some clothing to the swap too. Leanne Sharpton had an entire suitcase full of unique clothing that she busied herself hanging up as I creepily stood and watched.  The editors were really nice and said, “Hi,” but I was being a weird shy person and didn’t chat them up like I wish I should have.  It was a fun party-like atmosphere, which is hard to achieve for a book release event.  The editors designed the event to get audience members up and talking to one another.  

When the editors spoke, they made sure to ask the audience questions and I got the sense that they never stop being curious.  Sheila, Leanne, and Heidi all looked gorgeous and it was revealed that they were all wearing clothing that Leanne had given to them.  Heidi mentioned that the project was all done over Dropbox, Google chat, and technology that helped them collaborate on such a large project.  She found the process to be freeing and it was nice to hear someone talk about finding positive ways to reach more people through technology.  Their quest to include many voices was apparent.  Sheila said that they didn’t have one single fight throughout the entire process.  

I was too shy to talk to them, but if I had, I would have told them that they were great leaders.  They included everyone in on the process and delivered a beautiful product in a fairly quick amount of time for the publishing world.  I felt important.  They provided a model for getting a project done in a collaborative and welcoming environment and I hope that I can start up my own project soon.

I feel like this today

I hope. I hope. I hope. I hope. I hope. I hope.

Worry Warrior by The Tuts

Got a feeling that I’m angry, but I can’t quite tell I could’ve slept badly.

I even smile when I’m annoyed, so no-one takes me seriously.

And I can’t say no to other people and I can’t say no to anyone.

Worry warrior,

what you worried for?

I thought you were stronger.

Time to move on.

Justify every move I make, in case there’s any follow up questions.

I use to fight to keep the peace, but I’ve given up on that recently.

“If you are intimidated by the artists who came before you, understand you too have a place, right next to them.”

tavi gevinson

my queen

(via thegoodishgirl)
ms-demeanor:

Starting a series. It’s not radical to expect your boundaries to be respected, or safety on the streets. It’s not radical to want a good, clear, standard for consent. It’s not radical to want to stop victim blaming. It’s not radical to want to destroy rape culture.

Add to this: “What did Jennifer Lawrence expect when she took naked photos of herself?”  Jennifer Lawrence expected to enjoy herself in a safe and private way, enjoying her body and feeling good about herself.  When women take photos of themselves it is for their own enjoyment and has nothing to do with men’s approval or their criminal activity.  
I saw so much victim blaming from large media outlets about “How to not get ‘Jennifer Lawrenced’” when the conversation should be, “Why do men think it’s okay to violate women’s privacy and bodies and why do people think it’s okay to consume that violation?” ms-demeanor:

Starting a series. It’s not radical to expect your boundaries to be respected, or safety on the streets. It’s not radical to want a good, clear, standard for consent. It’s not radical to want to stop victim blaming. It’s not radical to want to destroy rape culture.

Add to this: “What did Jennifer Lawrence expect when she took naked photos of herself?”  Jennifer Lawrence expected to enjoy herself in a safe and private way, enjoying her body and feeling good about herself.  When women take photos of themselves it is for their own enjoyment and has nothing to do with men’s approval or their criminal activity.  
I saw so much victim blaming from large media outlets about “How to not get ‘Jennifer Lawrenced’” when the conversation should be, “Why do men think it’s okay to violate women’s privacy and bodies and why do people think it’s okay to consume that violation?”

ms-demeanor:

Starting a series. It’s not radical to expect your boundaries to be respected, or safety on the streets. It’s not radical to want a good, clear, standard for consent. It’s not radical to want to stop victim blaming. It’s not radical to want to destroy rape culture.

Add to this: “What did Jennifer Lawrence expect when she took naked photos of herself?”  Jennifer Lawrence expected to enjoy herself in a safe and private way, enjoying her body and feeling good about herself.  When women take photos of themselves it is for their own enjoyment and has nothing to do with men’s approval or their criminal activity.  

I saw so much victim blaming from large media outlets about “How to not get ‘Jennifer Lawrenced’” when the conversation should be, “Why do men think it’s okay to violate women’s privacy and bodies and why do people think it’s okay to consume that violation?”

(via smartgirlsattheparty)

rookiemag:

Reach Out: An Interview With Sheila Heti

On personal style, “the life of the writer,” and why you should bug the people you admire.

I was a contributor to this book.  I love how Sheila Heti finds unique ways to create artful books.  For this book, I completed a survey.  It took me an entire day and it was a very fulfilling activity.  I would not mind getting a survey from Sheila Heti every month.  I might complete the survey every year and see how my answers change.  My style and my level of attention to it has certainly changed.  I can’t wait to see what I’m like in my 60’s or 70’s.  Sometimes I think I’ll go total eccentric, wearing whatever bright crazy thing I can get my hands on.  Other times, I think I might just go straight dowdy.  Perhaps a half and half.  

smartgirlsattheparty:

screaminglonglives:

Jessica Williams on Claps and Catcalls Sept. 2, 2014 (x)

YES. smartgirlsattheparty:

screaminglonglives:

Jessica Williams on Claps and Catcalls Sept. 2, 2014 (x)

YES. smartgirlsattheparty:

screaminglonglives:

Jessica Williams on Claps and Catcalls Sept. 2, 2014 (x)

YES. smartgirlsattheparty:

screaminglonglives:

Jessica Williams on Claps and Catcalls Sept. 2, 2014 (x)

YES. smartgirlsattheparty:

screaminglonglives:

Jessica Williams on Claps and Catcalls Sept. 2, 2014 (x)

YES. smartgirlsattheparty:

screaminglonglives:

Jessica Williams on Claps and Catcalls Sept. 2, 2014 (x)

YES.

smartgirlsattheparty:

screaminglonglives:

Jessica Williams on Claps and Catcalls Sept. 2, 2014 (x)

YES.